Saint Padre Pio

The Sacrament of Reconciliation is also known as Confession. It is a rite of healing in which a person confesses their sins to a priest and receives God’s forgiveness and absolution.

This process includes elements of:

• acknowledging one’s failures and shortcomings
• expressing regret
• asking for and receiving the gift of forgiveness
• savouring the joy of being reconciled.

Children need to recognise these elements in their daily life, not only to be more appreciative of what happens in the Sacrament of Reconciliation, but also to provide them with foundations to becoming mature adults, without developing the tendency to accumulate anger and hard feelings:

• Admitting mistakes is a hurdle for young people. They tend to put the blame on others, being reluctant to take responsibility for their actions.
• In a quiet time, one may lead them to recognise shortcomings. They would need to realise that when they overcome them, they will be better people.
• A member of the family can mention situations that could have been challenging for them to accept, for example: Am I lazy? Do I tell lies? Blame others for things I do? Do I take anything that does not belong to me? Do I say rude words or mean things that hurt others? Do I follow house rules? etc.
• The tone of voice needs to be soft, low, peaceful and not strong and accusative.

To forgive, to ask for forgiveness will always remain a challenge for the Christian:

• Find an opportunity to hear the children express their thoughts as to what it means to forgive, how it feels, what is easy/hard about it.
• Encourage them to find examples of how they forgive/ask for forgiveness. This will vary according to their age.
• This could be done in what family therapists recommend as “a family forgiveness gathering,” if possible once a week or at least when the need arises. This will provide an opportunity to reconcile with members of the family there and then, and ideas can be put forward on how to reconcile with others.

We can lead children to understand our friendship with God:

• Listen to their ideas of what it means having a friend and being a friend.
• Jesus is our friend, who is always with us, always listening as we can talk to Him about anything. He will never hurt us. But sometimes we hurt our friendship with Jesus.
• When we hurt others, when we refuse to ask for forgiveness or refuse to forgive, our friendship with Jesus does not remain whole.
• We need to ask Him for forgiveness too, first personally and then in the Sacrament of Reconciliation, where the priest represents Jesus.

Consider relating the parable of the Prodigal Son from a Children’s Bible, eliciting the elements of love of the father, of regret, of forgiveness and reconciliation.

Family Prayer Time: Pray together: “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us”. Children may be encouraged to verbalise their own simple “Sorry Prayer.” Do not hesitate to verbalise your own.